The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible
Ali Binazir
Language: English
Pages: 324
ISBN: 0977984575
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
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Uploader's Note: This most hilarious quote from the book is this: "I started out by writing the book for men, which I finished in three intense months of writing and research in 2005. The book was well-received, and in late 2006, I set out to write the Tao of Dating for women, thinking that it would take about the same amount of time. Piece of cake, right? Wrong. Turns out it’s not as easy as I thought to write a dating book for women when you’re not a woman."
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The highest-rated dating self-help book on Amazon 83 weeks running, from July 2011 to Dec 2012 by reader reviews. What they have to say:
'I have read many books about relationships and dating, but The Tao of Dating is one of a kind, so different and mind-blowing in its common sense and simplicity that it is impossible to put it down once you start reading.'
'Well, where shall I start? Mind blowing? Life-changing? Truly opened my eyes? No words can express how much I love this book. I wish I had read it much earlier.'
'I keep this book in a small, carefully chosen, boxed collection of 'indispensable advice I wish I had written' that I will pass along to my children as they navigate through teens, twenties, early adulthood and beyond.'
'This turned out to be one of the most transformative books I have ever read much more so than I thought it possibly could be.'
'The content is intelligent and compassionate and enriching far beyond anything to do with dating. In essence, this book somehow, magically, alchemically, brings you back to yourself. Everyday TV and other media specialize in portraying women as cheap and disposable. This book is the antidote. Just by reading it, one is restored to one's own heart. I can think of no better praise.'
'1.5 reads of the book in and I can honestly say that I not only have a clear sense of the basic things that I was doing that were completely throwing off the dynamic with these men, but that I now have simple, quite beautiful little tools in mind when I'm interacting with men that make me properly excited to date. I'll admit that I bought a few books in this vein in one lump...but 'The Tao of Dating' just completely blew them out of the water.'
'This is the most helpful dating book that I have experienced! At the time of my purchase I also downloaded two other books and after reading this I can't even get through the first chapter of the other ones.'
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CAN YOU HAVE IT ALL?
I believe that smart, successful women can have it all -- both a great career AND a rich, warm, fulfilling love life. If you agree, read on.
As an advisor at Harvard, I noticed that smart women like yourself were having unfulfilling love lives on an epidemic scale. They either couldn't find the right guy, were with the wrong guy, had relationships that didn't last, or had given up on dating entirely. So I wrote this book to remedy the situation.
This is not your grandma's dating guide. Partially because I'm not your grandma, and partially because the 21st century poses unprecedented challenges to the modern woman. With a high-powered career, sometimes it seems that there just isn't time for love, and nowadays lots of guys are less educated & affluent than you. What to do?
This book combines ancient wisdom with modern science to give smart, successful women like yourself a heart-centered, science-based, practical guide to finding fulfillment in your love lives -- and far beyond. I give it all to you in a progression of small, easy steps that put the fun back in dating, plus the science and reasoning behind it so you can trust where it all comes from.
Click on the 'Read first chapter FREE' button above and to the right, or use the 'Click to look inside' button to read the full table of contents, Introduction & Chapter 1. Juicy topics from the book in the 'Author Bio' below.
Other People's Love Letters: 150 Letters You Were Never Meant to See
Red Green's Beginner's Guide to Women (For Men Who Don't Read Instructions)
Sex, Dating and Really Confusing Girls
What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind
Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships
you use the Tao, the more you move with the Tao, the more it brings fulfillment to your life. So be patient with yourself and with the men you meet. If you actually enjoyed the company of a man, allow that to take its course. See what happens for another meeting or two, even if thunderbolts did not descend from the heavens during the first date and he did not have a halo around his head by the end of it. Love visits at unlikely moments. And as Williamson said memorably in A Return to Love, there
easily and have no problem proposing a romantic weekend getaway when they've known you for less than fifteen minutes. What it looks like: Spontaneity and joie de vivre. What it could really be: Impulsiveness; trying to get into your pants as swiftly as possible What you're signing up for if you date him: plans only made at the last minute; plans cancelled at the last minute; general irresponsibility; similarly impulsive overtures to other women. Being just a tad too smooth. When you first
News media. The ancient Romans had a saying: sub sole nihil novum – nothing new under the sun. Whatever a newspaper and radio show can report to you – floods, earthquakes, bombs, wars, treaties, marriages, depressions, celebrations – has happened before. There's nothing new about news. And whose news is it anyway? The media know that bad news tends to sell better than good news – "If it bleeds, it leads" – due to our evolutionarily-designed tendency to want to know about risk so we can avoid it.
These are nonspecific, unfiltered venues, and as such there is no compelling reason for the men there to be your type. Get picky, get specific, and go to the source. Nonspecific venues are, more often than not, a waste of your time when it comes to meeting quality people – and acknowledged as such by members of the opposite sex. That means that even if you do meet the man of your dreams at a bar, he will likely think of you as “that bar babe,” with all the lovely attending connotations. Step
determines how the rest unfolds. And you've done a lot so far. You've instilled the right beliefs in yourself so you're coming from a place of self-sufficiency, abundance and goddess-consciousness. You've been practicing the right attitudes to give you the best results. You're clear on what kind of relationship you want. You've been going to the venues where you can find the right kind of man – the Good Guy with whom you can have a three-chakra connection. You use your body language