Why We Love the Way We Do
Preeti Shenoy
Language: English
Pages: 137
ISBN: 9385724185
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Is it possible to tell if it is love or lust? How important is sex in a relationship? Why do break-ups hurt so much? How often should you message a person you fancy? How do you tell if someone is too young or too old for you?
When it comes to relationships, these are the questions that most of us ponder. No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.
Why We Love the Way We Do is a collection of essays on relationships based on Preeti Shenoy’s hugely popular columns in a national daily, in which the bestselling novelist discusses some of those issues and questions that people in relationships, or those hoping to be in one, face. The topics range from those particular to our modern, technology-filled world: how to move from an online relationship to a real-life one, how to find and keep love online, whether casual sex is worth the effort; to those immortal issues such as how men and women communicate differently, how to deal with a broken heart and how jealousy ruins a relationship.
Filled with wonderful insights, sharp observations, humour and real-life examples, and written in her trademark lucid style, Preeti Shenoy brings to this book a perceptiveness about love and friendship that has made her the country’s highest-selling woman writer.
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‘f-buddies’ and ‘married but looking’. With a plethora of choice, how can we distinguish love from lust and how can we tell if that attractive person checking us out just wants a quick roll in the hay or something more? This was precisely Amit’s dilemma. The social scientists pondered this and found that it is difficult to disentangle romantic love and sexual desire. In order to tell what was which, they studied the brain and discovered that love and sexual desire each activated a different
freedom and begun to live away from their parents, from the middle-aged to the old and even married folks—nobody is immune to it. It can strike at any time and slowly draw you in and before you realise it, there is that certain somebody in your life the mere mention of whose name lights up your world. You have never felt anything like it before and you are swept away in the delirium, blissful, happy, contented. If you are an adult, chances are that you have been in love at least once in your
people do when they are looking for a person to marry is that they compromise simply because they feel time is running out, and ‘everybody is getting married’, and because parents and those well-meaning relatives will stop nagging. If the prospective match meets about 60 per cent of what one has in mind (after meeting several people who matched only 35-40 per cent, one gets fed up of searching for the perfect one too), they go ahead and say yes. Everyone is ecstatic for a few days and
women, the seeds of friendship are sown when they confide in each other, share information and talk and tell each other what happened that day. Tannen says that when you ask a woman who her best friends are, she is likely to name the women she converses with and confides in on a daily basis. However, when you ask a man the same question, he will usually reply that his best friend is his wife. Men talk to exchange information. A man believes that communication should have a clear purpose.
is lit. Where it proceeds from then on—whether it grows into a raging fire or whether it smoulders slowly like embers waiting to be fanned—depends on both parties in the relationship. Social scientists agree that the more time you spend with another person, the more interests you share and conversation you exchange, higher are the chances of falling in love. Thus it is not uncommon to find office romances blossoming under tight deadlines and shared goals. Even if one of the parties to this is