Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships
Michelle Skeen PsyD
Language: English
Pages: 200
ISBN: 1608829529
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away.
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unconsciously, your relationship with your story is getting in the way of the connection that you long for with another person. The ultimate goal of this book is to get you to a place where you can be present in a relationship without being controlled by your fears. Let me explain how this journey will get you to that place. In chapter 1 we’ll take a close look at fear of abandonment. You probably know that you have it, but this chapter will bring all of the aspects of this hardwired,
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