Freedom from Your Inner Critic: A Self-Therapy Approach

Bonnie Weiss

Language: English

Pages: 160

ISBN: 1604079428

Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub

We've all heard the voice of the inner critic―that part of us that judges us, shames us, and makes us feel inadequate. "You don't want to give in to the Critic, and it doesn't really work to fight against it," explains Dr. Jay Earley. "But there is a way to transform it into an invaluable ally." With Freedom from Your Inner Critic, Dr. Earley and psychotherapist Bonnie Weiss present a self-therapy approach for uncovering the psychological roots of our self-sabotaging inner voices and restoring our sense of worthiness. Filled with insights, case studies, and practical self-therapy exercises, this breakthrough book explores:

"Self-esteem is our birthright," says Dr. Earley. "And even the most intractable Inner Critic can learn to let go and allow you to blossom." Freedom from Your Inner Critic offers a solution to one of our greatest psychological challenges―so you can reclaim your confidence, freedom, and joy in life.

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teachers, or peers would cause your Criticized Child to carry shame or embarrassment. This experience could also prompt an Inner Critic to shame you in an attempt to keep you from doing again whatever led to your being shamed in the first place. Your Child might also carry shame if your parents or family felt ashamed about something such as poverty, their race or religion, or the way their community may have looked down on them. Children tend to take on the shame of their parents as their own,

Criticized Child would end up feeling that it didn’t have the right to exist or that it was dangerous to exist. So in order to keep you safe, a Destroyer Inner Critic may actually try to kill you or crush you so you aren’t there, as strange as that sounds. If a parent attacked you repeatedly, your Critic might blame you for the attacks, which would make your Criticized Child believe the attacks were your fault. The Critic does this so you won’t fight back and be harmed even more. Taking on the

there are times when there is a grain of truth in the judgments of our Critic and even times when a judgment contains wisdom we have been ignoring. In these cases, the problem isn’t the content of the Critic’s judgment, but rather the harsh, nasty, condemning way the judgment is delivered. The message doesn’t have to be expressed this way; there is another option. It is possible to have a gentler and wiser voice inside—a voice we call the Inner Mentor. This part is a healthy version of the

tends to trigger your Inner Critic and that delivers some truth in its judgment of you. Respond to these prompts in your journal. The situation: What the Critic says to you: Evoke your Inner Champion, as we described in the last chapter, to support you in feeling better about yourself and knowing that you don’t deserve to be treated in a harsh way. What does it say to you? Now think about how you would like your Inner Mentor to help you with the situation. Its input will usually be a

do it, too, and I’ve got to be good at it. If they’re going to do that to me, then I’m going to do it to myself so they can’t do it to me worse. This gives me the power of not being hurt by them. I’m trying to protect this child part from being hurt by them and from feeling all that hate and criticism from the family. That’s too painful, so if I hurt her (the child part) instead, it won’t be so bad because I’m the one hurting her—not the people whose love she really wants. When a Critic is

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