10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior
Language: English
Pages: 304
ISBN: 1569243018
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Reader's Digest International (March 2015)
defiance within ten days. Your goal is to join with your child, not be her adversary. The more you realize and remember that you are working with—rather than against—your child to lower her defiance, the more you will make this happen. Twenty-five Ways to Help You Stop Yelling Here are some powerful, effective tips to help you avoid the yelling trap. 1. Be an active listener. If you are in a conflict, draw your child out to see how he genuinely feels. Avoid being overly judgmental, which
urge to yell. Step back and feel good about what you have accomplished. Remember to reward yourself for yelling less often. 20. Think of quiet and powerful role models. If you visualize other parents who refrain from yelling, you will feel their support to help you avoid yelling. Warren told me that when trying not to yell at his defiant ten-year-old daughter, he pictured his karate instructor’s patience, quiet dignity, and grace when working with him. Remembering that other people work to
You’re not alone if you’ve found the topic of discipline (and trying to administer it) very confusing. Many parents attempt to discipline their children when they’re upset and end up wondering if they did the right thing or if they were too hard or soft on their children. To make matters worse, an overwhelming sea of information exists about discipline. So many books and so many experts! As you try to make sense of it all, you can easily end up with even more maddening confusion about what to
and this helped support Ryan’s progress even further. Ryan confided to me privately, “I was bad sometimes just because I felt that Mom and Ivan then would at least talk to each other.” Cultivate Non-Child-Related, Shared Interests One helpful way to reconnect as a couple is to develop new interests together. Doing new things provides an infusion of excitement and gives you and your spouse wonderful things to talk about that are not related to your defiant child. Here are a few suggestions that
and told Eric that he had to discuss this with Eric’s mother. In the past, Eric’s father would get upset and immediately accuse his wife of giving in to Eric’s manipulative ploys, and they would wind up arguing. Now Eric’s parents supported each other. This reduced family tensions and lessened Eric’s chances of relapsing into more manipulative and defiant behaviors. Tip #2: Catch each other using the strategies in this book. Trish and Shauna had come to me seeking support for their